Bongani Urban reacts to 'I nearly hit my partner…'

If we’re honest with ourselves, things are not going right. The whole point of #MenAreTrash is not to defend yourself as a man, but it’s there to raise awareness against women abuse. And men, I am talking directly to you. 

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I am not sure how you were raised and maybe you are part of a very small percentage that were raised to respect women, but I know growing up in society men were always seen as the stronger sex. Men are taught from a young age that they are better and that having feelings and showing emotions is meant for females. It’s seen as soft and for people that should be walked all over.

In my culture, we have a saying that goes 'ungayngeni into yabantu ababili', which loosely translates to 'you don’t get involved in two people’s business because you don’t know where it started'. And with men, it’s acceptable to see another man beat his wife and we don’t get involved. There’s also the case that men don’t know when no is no. For a lot of men, no just means that you need to try harder.

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What has gone wrong? Where did it go wrong? As men, do you think we are damaged? How do we fix this?

I took a few calls on air to try and answer these looming questions. Listen carefully as I chatted to a man who admitted that he came inches away from beating his girlfriend. 

Warning: The audio in the podcast below is not for sensitive listeners.